[brutus1213]

I'm sorry for your loss and the difficult circumstances your family finds itself in.

Not sure what to advise you. This is a very challenging set of circumstances you are in.

Two thoughts:

1) You must keep it together as the alternative is unproductive.

2) I believe a defining power of humans is our ability to adapt. You will adapt. So will your family.

Just do the best you can. Work hard to earn but be careful to not self-destruct. Think of an engine that is pushed beyond its limit. You must not damage yourself through too much stress and work.

Don't make false promises such as "Don't worry ... I have it all figured out" .. especially if that is not true. Discuss the reality of the situation and your plan. This could mean no new iPhones or anything beyond the bare necessities of life (not forever but at least for a while).

Remember, you will hopefully earn more money and have an easier job as time goes on. Upskill yourself as you get the opportunity and avoid bad habits.

Best of luck to you.