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by paulcole 1207 days ago
> giving in to bullys is not an acceptable solution

Of course it is! It’s called picking your battles and sometimes you give in and sometimes you don’t. Everybody loses sometimes.

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Nah... perhaps i am just too stubborn, but even my 8 year old self confronted the big bad russian kid that bullied me about a dozent times... got stomped in the ground in 9 of 10 times, but in the end i simply WON. He aknowledged, that i was more trouble than the bit fun bullying me was worth it.

Never "picked my fights" at any time in my life... make me feel treated unfair (or observe someone treated unfair) and i go full psycho mode. Yeah, i got stomped in the ground many times in my life (lost a few teeth, got broken bones, where fired or thrown out of places) but i am just too stubborn and stupid to give in.

> i got stomped in the ground many times in my life (lost a few teeth, got broken bones, where fired or thrown out of places) but i am just too stubborn and stupid to give in.

Congrats.

sorry, hard disagree. giving in is never good. it's not picking your battles, but it is letting the others win, and they'll keep doing it because by giving in you give them power over you.
> it's not picking your battles, but it is letting the others

This is the literal definition of picking your battles.