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by jyapayne 1210 days ago
If your parents were narcissistic with you since you were little, you likely suffered from childhood emotional neglect.

I am reading an excellent book on this topic called "Running on Empty: Overcome your Childhood Emotional Neglect " by Jonnice Webb.

To determine if you might be suffering from it, an excerpt from the book:

“Emotional Neglect Questionnaire

Do You:

1. Sometimes feel like you don’t belong when with your family or friends

2. Pride yourself on not relying upon others

3. Have difficulty asking for help

4. Have friends or family who complain that you are aloof or distant

5. Feel you have not met your potential in life

6. Often just want to be left alone

7. Secretly feel that you may be a fraud

8. Tend to feel uncomfortable in social situations

9. Often feel disappointed with, or angry at, yourself

10. Judge yourself more harshly than you judge others

11. Compare yourself to others and often find yourself sadly lacking

12. Find it easier to love animals than people

13. Often feel irritable or unhappy for no apparent reason

14. Have trouble knowing what you’re feeling

15. Have trouble identifying your strengths and weaknesses

16. Sometimes feel like you’re on the outside looking in

17. Believe you’re one of those people who could easily live as a hermit

18. Have trouble calming yourself

19. Feel there’s something holding you back from being present in the moment

20. At times feel empty inside

21. Secretly feel there’s something wrong with you

22. Struggle with self-discipline

Look back over your circled (YES) answers. These answers give you a window into the areas in which you may have experienced Emotional Neglect as a child.”

1 comments

Yep... I answered 12x Yes, 7x Somewhat (or Yes in the past) and 3x No.