[graderjs]

Why be mean for? I open myself up and share something vulnerably here, and how do you respond? You try to invalidate it. That's not very nice.

I have my experience of it. That yours differs, why do you need to invalidate mine? Why can't we both exist? No I think it is maybe your world view that needs to expand, son, and by not being inclusive of mine, but instead trying to shoot it down you are displaying the very same inflexibility that I identified which you simultaneously pretend does not exist! Ha!! :) ;p xx ;p

Think about that next time before you're "blunt". A blunt instrument has limited use....even for artists! ;p :)

[eropple]

Your attempt to dichotomize the world is insulting to people who have been, and are, both--sometimes at the same time. That's why you got the reaction you did, and your doubling down is, to someone on the receiving end, no less unkind than the post you characterize as "mean".

[graderjs]

Insulting how? Well then if you get insulted by that you're not "both". You're probably not even one.

That's why I got the reaction? No, I got the reaction because that guy's insecure he's not an artist, and he's choosing to be a little meanie.

Oh I see, so you're a victim now? Of your own misinterpretation? Wilful wanting to see a fault so you can claim to be right? Pathological need to be "victimized" to justify attacking someone?

Look the bottom line is, you wouldn't be unhappy if you didn't think it was true. So don't blame me if it's true for you. If you don't like it, just fix yourself.

[Cypher]

Being blunt isn't mean, that's the problem with feelings.

[graderjs]

No but it can be. It all depends. That why you need to consider feelings. The problem is not with feelings, it's with people's behavior when they act inconsiderately. Don't you got that?