[dekhn]

I'm sitting here just trying to imagine a first date conversation where one person asks the other what their total comp is. I guess, having been on only one or two dates in my life, that bringing up questions like that would normally be a red flag and would be something most dates would not ask (on a first, second, or even third date). Even if not intentional, it signals all sorts of things about a person. If you want to know more about things like this, it's easier to work stuff into a conversation, to see if (for example) they spend a lot of money, and if that's problematic.