[mbork_pl]

I have a fairly small apartment where I live with my wife and two kids (7 & 13). I read/write a lot while commuting by public transport.

Work from home is a nightmare for me, even though I have to commute 10+ km to the office.

I mean, to each his own – I don't have any problem with you loving working remotely. But please do not forget that people are in various situations. (I'm not claiming you do, just wanted to mention another perspective.)

[helij]

I was just thinking and can't remember anyone being bothered by someone wanting to go to the office and work there. I do know people who are offended by people who want to work from home though and they can be pretty aggressive and annoying (not pointing at you here btw.).

The commute I have is aprox. 50 min and I stand on the train and tube the whole way in the morning. No room to read or write. We also have fairly big 3-bed apartment and one of the smaller bedrooms is our home office. It's really amazing and for two adults and a child plenty of space for everyone.

Yes, to each his own. If you prefer to go to an office go ahead. Don't expect others to be there though.

Also, the money I save from commuting goes straight into paying up our mortgage and doing a lunch or two and dinner at our local town restaurants. Great Italian and Turkish food around. Certainly beats Greggs in the City and even some fancier restaurants and pubs.

I find it funny how the push to the office comes with let's support "local businesses" - what they mean by that is actually big chains. Well, now I can actually support local businesses and spend money locally. Earlier I couldn't as, you know, I only came home to sleep.

/rant off

[throwaway1347a]

I think the office/home misses the point when it comes to interaction. It’s more about whether you’re working in the same physical location as your colleagues, and while no one is stopping people heading into the office, if no other colleagues are there you’re not working in the same physical location.

Personally, I live alone, and when I spend a day without in depth conversations with co located people I feel very down. Obviously I can head out in the evening, but during work hours it’s very hard to both do my job, and have conversations with co located people. This is true whether I’m at home, or in an empty office.

Now, rationally, I know it’s not in anyone’s job description to come into the office to look after my personal mental health - and as a manager I push for people being able to work from home where it makes sense, and support those people as best I can. However, I’ve now decided I will likely soon leave my current role and look for a job where I know I will be co located 4-5 days a week, because I know it’s what is best for my mental health. Even if that means a significant career change I’d be happy to do it.

Again, I have no issues with people wanting to work from home, and I’m sure it’s had a great positive impact for those people. For me, it’s had a major negative impact, and it’s now something I’ll be sure is a criteria in future roles.

[JohnFen]

> I spend a day without in depth conversations with co located people I feel very down

I've found that I actually have in depth conversations working remotely, where that almost never happened in the office.

[throwaway2037]

So GP's lived experiences are not real? Your reply reads like "yeah, but for me..." All of the HN discussions about work from office vs home always devolve into the same No True Scotsman arguments. It doesn't matter what anyone says, someone else will inevitably say: "yeah, but for me..." Nothing new is learned. Everyone's mind stays closed to other's peoples lived experiences.

And wait until you have teammates that don't want to pick-up the (video) phone or reply to your chats or emails. Suddenly, you won't be having those "in depth conversations working remotely". Can you empathize with GP's experience?

[JohnFen]

> So GP's lived experiences are not real?

I never even thought, let alone said, anything remotely like that.

> Your reply reads like "yeah, but for me..."

And it was. What's wrong with that? The commenter was expressing their personal reality, and I was expressing mine. Why is it bad when I do it but not when they do it?

Since the whole WFH/RTO debate (and it's silly this debate even exists because the two aren't mutually exclusive) is entirely about everyone's personal preferences, expressing personal preferences seems appropriate.

> Can you empathize with GP's experience?

Yes, of course.

[fennecfoxy]

Chill out, my man. Did the OP ever say that? No, they did not.

All they did was reference someone's opinion as they shared their own.

[reciprocity]

I think you completely misread parent's comment.

[JohnFen]

> Don't expect others to be there though.

Well, some will. There are plenty of people who want to be back in the office.

> let's support "local businesses" - what they mean by that is actually big chains.

I find that hilarious, too. Supporting a local business is not supporting big chains. They don't really count as "local businesses".

[throwaway2037]

I guess you live in/around London. Thank you to share your experience. The commutes that my London teammates endure sound like soul-sucking hell.

Real question: If you could afford the same setup closer to city center (say, zone 2 or something) but a 15-minute bicycle from the office, would you do it? My point: What London needs is more housing (a sh-t ton of it), then it will become affordable housing. Real estate prices are so out of control in London... forcing most to live far outside the city, and endure a hellish commute.

[helij]

Prices where we are are similar to zone 2 but much better access to green belt and major roads that get you out to the 'countryside'. That's why we decided to buy here and not go for central London.

If we were to live closer to our offices I would probably go in more, yes.

[dakiol]

> I mean, to each his own

That's the problem. Don't take it personally, but if we are in the same team, I don't care at all if you go to the office to work; I'm happy working from home. But, if you want to work from the office it's because you (probably) want to work with people there... so the company forces the rest to come to the office some days per week. So it's not really "to each his own": working from the office is not a personal choice, it's rather a team/company decision.

[unregistereddev]

Yeah ... I have a moderately sized house where I live with my wife. She loves working from home because it frees her to be flexible. She can take meetings without a headset, grab snacks whenever, play music, play with the cats, or - if she's no longer being productive - turn on the TV.

For all the reasons my wife enjoys working from home, I enjoy working from the office. I love her dearly, but I also want to work during my work time. There's only so much I can tune out while remaining productive.

[throwaway2037]

I see this pattern a lot in straight couples. The wife has much lower economic productivity. Why? Please don't read this as a slight against your wife! (A person's economic value is completely separate from their value as a human being.)

My statement comes with a lot of assumptions. I cannot believe that someone who works like that actually makes decent money. Are they working the absolute minimum and paid enough to feel satisfied?

[unregistereddev]

We work in the same industry. While I do make more money, that is primarily due to being older and having a little more experience. She makes decent money.

The lesson here might be that having more fucks to give does not necessarily lead to better performance reviews or more promotions. Or equally likely, my wife is smarter than I am and is able to exceed expectations with far less effort.

[RangerScience]

> public transport.

(Not GP) It's not a "to each his own" - I don't have any problem with you working in an office, in a place where public transit is a functional commute. I'd probably want a return to office if I lived somewhere that had that, but I don't. It's not so much that I'm "choosing" remote, it's that non-remote commutes make office jobs that much worse because of the lack of functional public transit for that commute. And, in other cases, because office locations are shit (office parks).

(I live in LA: We do actually have great public transit... kind of. It just goes to limited places, so those places are packed. Otherwise it's buses, and those don't work as a read/write commute - at least in LA, both b/c busses also have to deal with traffic, and the US's social safety net... issues).