[jgrahamc]

My relationship felt better than ever, because we wouldn’t both lay next to each other on our phones before sleeping

You could always do what I did and simply ban all electronics from the bedroom. In my bedroom there is a battery powered clock and that's it. No TV, phones or anything else.

[JohnFen]

This. The bed should be for sleeping and sex, nothing else.

[eru]

Eh, breakfast in bed can be nice.

Some people like reading a book in there, too.

And, of course, smaller humans like to jump.

[JohnFen]

Sure, there's lots of nice things to do in bed other than those two. But years ago, I took that advice from my business partner. Doing that improved my sleep (and life) significantly. It may or may not work for you (and you may not need it), but several people I know who started doing it reported that they benefitted greatly.

My hypothesis is because it trains your mind to associate bed with just those activities. Mostly sleep, because you're probably doing a whole lot more of that than sex.

So what ends up happening is that just getting into bed signals your mind that it's time to sleep. When you get in, sleep comes quickly.

I do the other stuff, reading, etc., in a nice, quiet place that isn't in bed. Then I get tired and go to bed, and I'm sleeping soundly very quickly.

[techstrategist]

Thanks, I’ve just moved furniture around to make space a reading corner. I really like 15-60 minutes of reading and reflection in the evening, and it seems like a good idea to move it out of the bed.

[sn41]

It's a delight to see smaller humans feel so happy around the bed!

[techstrategist]

Wrestling toddlers and family story time are both essential activities!

[layer8]

Larger humans too, but you’d need a sturdier bed and a higher ceiling. ;)

[techstrategist]

Even just switching from phone at night to tablet or e-reader was a massive improvement. Something about the phone makes it much more compelling and harder to put down. Never had a bedroom tv and definitely won’t. I’d prefer that my wife also kept her phone out, but she’s an adult and I’m not going to ban it.

[RMPR]

Same, but I do allow ebook readers obviously not connected to Internet.

[jgrahamc]

Yeah. I am slightly incorrect. My wife has an ebook reader but it's not connected to the Internet. I just have a stack of paper books.