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by dkiok21k 1199 days ago
No. A single statement can never be gaslighting. Gaslighting is a process. Being told to be wrong (even if you may be correct) is not gaslighting either. The important element is to plant doubts about your _perception_.
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I spoke to others and everyone is very disappointed of your comment. They do not want to say it, but I had to.

I am your friend, trust me.

> A single statement can never be gaslighting.

"I spoke to everyone" is, by definition, not a single statement.

Everyone telling you you're wrong definitely can instill doubts about your perception.

""I spoke to everyone and they all think I am wrong" is a different statement than "I spoke to everyone and they all think you are wrong".

Continously being told to "be wrong" can instill such doubts, but more precisely it would be me worrying about you "seeing it wrong", not accusing you of _being_ wrong about something. Your quote does not necessarily carry that meaning.

I talked to everyone that uses the term gas lighting and they all think your definition is too narrow.