Show HN: GPT-3-based app for couples to build the relationship consciously

[marakaci]

I'm a developer and I wanted to improve my technical skills while gaining more product knowledge. It's been challenging to do this at work, so I've been exploring ideas for creating a useful app that will also allow me to use a cool tech-stack and recent AI progress. I have spoken to many couples and therapists, and a common theme that came up was communication problems. I dug a bit deeper and realized that these issues could be prevented, if people consciously get to know each other at the initial dating stage.

So I have created an app that helps couples establish meaningful communication from the early stages of their relationship. The app gives you a question and an action for your date, then afterwards app sends you a self-reflection question and ask for your feedback on how it went. App also provides an entertaining way to keep a relationship diary. Here are the links to Apple Store (https://apps.apple.com/no/app/nemlys/id1662262055) and Google Play (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.nemlys.app)

I've also heard that couples want more personalized questions that adapt to their relationship. So, I have introduced AI-generated questions based on the detailed feedback on how conversations went, their relationship diary within the app, previous questions, relationship goal, their milestones and level of intimacy. With all this context, GPT-3 can create a personalized question about the specific issue you're facing.

I want to make the personalization even more precise and require less input from you (because let's be real, not everybody wants to write long diaries).

What do you think are the best ways to achieve it? I am thinking about fine-tuning the model on our examples how to ask a personalised question with less context

[rnosov]

Hmmm, ChatGPT seems to work even as date coach. It gave me sensible answer using a rephrased prompt from your website: "Propose question to discuss, an activity to do and a self-reflection question for a date"

Would your app do better?

[marakaci]

yep, it would, there is nothing magical though. We collect a lot of context about the couple, and GPT-3 can provide more precise suggestions then. We get some decent bits of info from their diary, feedback and onboarding process

And we also played with dozens of different prompts to choose the one that performs the best.

Like, when I write something as "I felt unpleasant when I noticed that my partner did not provide me enough attention when I told her that I have an issue in my family, I feel that she does not understand well how to support me"

and gave an answer in the feedback like "I want to talk more about how we can support each other in situations we feel down", the GPT-3 was able to pick the context with our guidance and give a question "What steps will you take to ensure that you both feel supported and heard in frustrating situation" for the next date.

And I also think we can bring it to another level with fine-tuning

[rnosov]

I see. You might want to explain it somewhere on your landing page. Perhaps a comparison of a more generic ChatGPT responses to the ones your app generates. Otherwise, it's not clear ( for me ) as to why should I download your app when the ChatGPT dispenses endless dating wisdom in the nearby tab.

[marakaci]

thanks, it's a good suggestion, we definitely need to play around a little bit to showcase what we do better!