Why is the thought of other people finding happiness in a way different from you “gut-wrenching”? Such a strong emotional reaction to a lifestyle that has no direct impact on you doesn’t seem healthy.
The strong emotional reaction is natural, it's the protector instinct coming to the front. You have to explain how you came to the conclusion it's not healthy because it's not apparent to me. Is it because you believe the women when they say they are finding happiness? A dispassionate observer notices this is delusion, in reality they do not, quite the opposite.
You are probably right that there is no direct impact, but there is an indirect society-wide impact, the video under discussion touches on that.
You are probably right that there is no direct impact, but there is an indirect society-wide impact, the video under discussion touches on that.