[benj111]

>You know, I used to have a girlfriend that would do shitty things to me and then proclaim I was the one that needed to get over it because it happened so long ago, despite her never apologizing or making up for her behavior.

You seem to be suggesting that you hold all women responsible for what your girlfriend did.

Do you see how other women might object to apologising for what your ex did, based purely of what they have in their underwear?

[silverwasthere]

It was an example of an abuse not an example of an abusive class of people.

What a large group of people are doing now regarding racism is exactly what this one single woman is said to have done.

[benj111]

Am I part of this abusive class of people simply for being white?

How many of these 'single' women are there? How many before it becomes a class, and all women are culpable?

[silverwasthere]

You seem to be suggesting that an entire race in the US should just get over it because it happened so long ago, which is the same gaslighting this woman is said to have done. Since you are doing this to an entire race, denying the importance of their experience and pain, you are in a class of their abusers regardless of your race.