[ravenstine]

As a man, it's hard to imagine the kind of bubble that some women must exist in for those combined preferences to seem completely reasonable. Men have their own idiotic preferences, but they're usually self-contained whilst many women have an all-encompassing "he's gotta have this, he's gotta have that, he's gotta have this, he's gotta have that, he's gotta have this, he's gotta have that..." attitude. People should feel ashamed for being so openly misanthropic, but to some extent it's considered acceptable.

Though I mentioned some things that I think will help society move past this phase of "modern dating", I forgot to mention specifically that if anything's going to change, it may only happen if women collectively start rejecting hookup apps. All of the women I know seem to realize they hate something about apps like Tinder, yet continue relying on them, but maybe enough of them will eventually put two and two together. It's not just the men whom are failing them, but the technology itself.

[fwlr]

On some level, the author recognizes that whole set of preferences is completely unreasonable - that’s the point of listing them all out like that. But you can also see that whole set of preferences is necessary and functional to survive a dating app - she states it produced 100 potential suitors. 99% of women across 99% of history wouldn’t have had 100 potential suitors across their entire life. Hence why I quoted that final paragraph, it neatly encapsulates the problem: “I applied unreasonably picky standards and still found 100 men”.

[Johanx64]

She didn't find 100 suitors, what she got instead is 100 guys that passed her unrealistic standards and matched, out of which most probably found her single mom "closing in on fourty" looks still good enough to cream her, but not much beside that.

Of those 100 very few would be willing to be seen with her in public, and clearly not interested in commiting. It's subtle, but you can clearly pick it up reading her lamentations

How many men that are 6ft+, are educated and have their shit together put in 40yo single moms with 3kids and colorful past as their commitment filter?