[msoad]

I went on over 100 dates using online dating apps. Eventually, I found a partner in the "real world." The problem was that going on yet another date was too easy for me. With my current partner, it took a long time to build up trust and attraction. At first, it wasn't even romantic. Maybe for her too, online dating is too fast to build a real connection. The first time you see the other person, you feel pressured to know if you are attracted to them or not. Don't even get me started on evaluating an online dating profile.

She talked about how drinking Starbucks was a deal breaker for her. My current partner has multiple qualities that would have been deal breakers if I had evaluated them in the online dating context, and yet I am very happy in this relationship.