[georgeecollins]

I think that is the problem with modern dating. There is too much information and too many choices available so that it is easy to reject someone for something that is obviously trivial. In the olden days you would sometimes fall for someone as you got to know them better, even if they had a few flaws that made them seem imperfect. There is a great Russian movie "Moscow does not believe in tears" where the heroine says she will never date a man with dirty shoes. She meets a man with messy shoes.. (spoiler) eventually they fall in love.

[skissane]

> I think that is the problem with modern dating. There is too much information and too many choices available so that it is easy to reject someone for something that is obviously trivial.

You can go looking for the perfect person and never find them - or you can choose to be with someone and say “I’m flawed and you are flawed but we are going to try our hardest to make it work in spite of our flaws”.

[airstrike]

Or as go the lyrics to the great "When my time comes" by Dawes:

> Oh, you can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks

> Yes, you can stare into the abyss, but it's staring right back

[ChildOfChaos]

I watched a video on YouTube recently that was actually on decision making, but it talked about arranged marriages.

With arranged marriages, the decision is made, so they have to make it work, for the rest of us, we think it’s the decision that matters more than anything else, so we place too much value on making the decision, as if a perfect one exists and place less value on making that decision work.