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by kyoob 1213 days ago
Advocating for laws that promote reasonable childhood independence benefits families where all the adults have to work more hours to get by, leaving their kids in safe but unsupervised situations more often.
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This parenting style doesn’t necessarily save parents time.

For example, to implement this: https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2018/06/09/6169288...

It means involving toddlers into helping in small ways (and having to pay attention to the toddler’s capacity), even if that help initially involves many mistakes.

People who are barely treading water may not have the resources to do something like that, being too exhausted.

Further, you are mistaking safety for well-being. There are situations where overall mental and emotional well-being comes from the confidence built on taking calculated risks. You can only do that when the family and community has a solid social safety net.

To think that protecting poor people’s ability to parent grossly misses the point of this.

I think you’re finding arguments in what I’m saying that I’m not actually putting in there. That’s fine! I respect your point of view.
You are right. Thank you for respecting it. I was trying to convey that the frame in which we are approaching this is off, so the arguments I brought up falls outside of what you are saying. I have a bad habit of not indicating that I am changing the frame, so that can lead to confusion, and often to the experience that I'm talking past other people.