[colinrand]

YMMV, but the thing that seems to work in my house (mid teen girl) is to actively be engaged with her social life and have the meta (not Meta) conversation about social media impact with her regularly. She will have to learn to deal with her reality and live with it on her own, but helping her have a set of tools to describe and analyze it is beneficial. Tools like being aware of how much time she spends on it, how other people are affected by it, how apps affect your behavior, etc. But it all starts with engaging as a parent with her on her level, not forcing her to be an adult with a fully formed executive function capacity.

[stuckinhell]

I have a daughter, I mostly agree. I like to remind people teenagers are not "little" adults, they lack full developed brains, and extremely susceptible to peer pressure.

I restrict my kids social media very tightly, and make sure they have lots of real world activities and real world influences.

[danbolt]

I think this hits the nail on the head. Or, it sounds like you’re engaged to help give your child the self-advocacy they need to be responsible for their own life.

[swader999]

I like your reply a lot. We turn the wifi off at bedtime too. Sleep needs to be sacred.