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by ANumberlessMan 1212 days ago
There is absolutely value in long term monogamous relationships. So much value you cannot see it from the inside. It's someone to 'show off' to, and to work for, and to- ineffectively- try to impress. And that matters far, far more than you'd think. It staves off the most brutal of existential crises.
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I think this is a fallacy, the expected value of most monogamous relationships is zero or microscopic - most fail, many have negative value (abuse, homicide, mental illness), etc - so in some ways it's like playing the lottery.

A tax on the romantically challenged :)

Again, I say this as a proud and happy husband of 19 years!

>Again, I say this as a proud and happy husband of 19 years!

Yeah, you basically won the lottery. For every one of you, there's a bunch of people who lost the relationship lottery: divorce, abuse, etc. The odds really aren't in one's favor.

I’m a grad student with an adviser, you want me to add someone else to that list?