[polynox]

That's fair. A car that is in a collision is always at best as good as a car that has not been in a collision, whereas that's not the case with an employee who was terminated.

I was trying to get at where you don't need to trust someone else's judgement of something, you can just ... go look yourself. Or hire your own expert. Because why do those other things if they don't actually change the outcome?

[3np]

Maybe closer one: You stop dating a prospective partner when you find out it was their ex who instigated their breakup.

[mcv]

A lot depends on the why. I may have different tastes than their ex.