[martindbp]

I don't look down on dancing, but like with everything really people are just different, there's no Tabula Rasa. No amount of trying will make me enjoy dance (believe me I've tried), just as my wife who is a dancer will never consider an afternoon spent reading a sci-fi novel to be the epitome of happiness. Unfortunately dance is something that pops up at parties and other occasions, and it's implied that you're weird if you don't participate.

[ashwagary]

>I don't look down on dancing, but like with everything really people are just different

>No amount of trying will make me enjoy dance

Dancing is primarily sexual signaling to potential mates and competition. Being effortlessly good at it's indirect proof that you are atleast somewhat good in bed and are in tune enough to engage in a variety of non-verbal communication and phonic based jousting.

[darkerside]

You can't change anybody, you can only influence them to change. You can't learn anything from a book that you didn't already know. I don't know how to say it exactly, but I've seen enough people change, and how that happens, to know that you and your wife's tastes may change over time. You don't have to be open to the possibility of you don't want to be, but it does remind me of another phrase: I'm not a math person.

[forgotpwd16]

>You can't change anybody, you can only influence them to change.

Everyone and everything influences who we're regardless of their intentions. What is strange is, although you may already be happy and fulfilled, people feel it's their duty to "influence" you to change because their worldview cannot accept you. In their mind they think "you cannot possibly not like this thing that I love." Well dears, it's possible and you should accept that not everyone is like you.

>You can't learn anything from a book that you didn't already know.

Let's start that this very much depends on the kind of book. Putting that aside, literature isn't meant to convey knowledge in first place. Rather literature is meant to convey emotions and imagination.

>but I've seen enough people change

People may change. But that doesn't make right other people to try and force this change.

>You don't have to be open to the possibility of you don't want to be

Sorry but I've hard time understanding this. Do you mean "at least try"? What if they tried and didn't liked it? Do they've to try indefinitely because some people cannot accept the fact that they may not like it?

>I'm not a math person.

Huh! See this is usually said when someone has hard time with math. Which is entirely distinct thing from enjoying math. Have known many people that were good in math but that didn't mean they'll solve math problems in their free time. Similarly people can be good at dance but that doesn't mean they enjoy dancing.

[martindbp]

I think we discover more than change. You may think that you don't like dancing but then realize that you actually do. But if you've tried several times and don't like it you're unlikely to change. Twin studies show that twins separated at birth end up with the same interests and very similar lives. In one example twins both ended up leading the local volunteer firefighter departments in their respective towns. That's just an anecdote but the statistics show this as well, it's quite remarkable.