[throwaway22032]

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd.

You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right.

If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sort of events, there's nothing weird about that.

[Trasmatta]

This comparison doesn't make sense. Dancing is present at many events that you would have legitimate reasons to want to attend for reasons other than dance. That's not really the case for a LAN party or an arcade.

> If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sort of events

I guess I'll just never go to a wedding again, or a live music event, or a house party, or any of the other random events where dancing happens but isn't necessarily the focus.

[darkerside]

People don't usually drag you to dance if you're in animated conversation with another. They do it when when you seem lonely and bored. Trying to get you to engage with the people around you.

[throwaway22032]

Dancing isn't a focus for a live music event, a house party, a wedding?

I mean, yeah, you come off as a bit weird. Sorry. It's fairly integral to all three. Maybe not the wedding depending on the couple.

[Trasmatta]

> Maybe not the wedding depending on the couple.

"Maybe" implying that there are weddings I shouldn't attend because I don't like dancing?

And I shouldn't go to live music or house parties because it's weird to do so if I don't like dancing?

Nahh, miss me with that. This is exactly what I mean. The only weird thing here is the idea that I shouldn't go out and have fun with friends because I don't like to dance. People are so weird about it, and treat it almost like a sacred act.

[throwaway22032]

You can do whatever you want man, it's 2023.

If your friends like to dance and you're sat in the corner on your phone then you look like a weirdo. That doesn't mean you can't go out and have fun, it means owning the fact that your choices mark you as being different.

[feanaro]

So what if they're different? Your engagement with them still carries that faint undertone of judgement. Just leave it.

[skizm]

Yeah, going to a club and not wanting to dance is weird, but I'm not skipping weddings or various parties because I don't like to dance.