Is it okay to go to a black majority country in Africa and be racist because you are a minority? That logic doesn't fly.. why would we accept that here either?
Of course the effects are different for people who are able to escape the situation unharmed and go on with their lives.
But not every white person who encounters racism is able to escape unharmed. Some have been physically hurt or even killed in racist attacks. Some are harassed at school or work or in their neighborhoods and can't afford to escape.
Their situation isn't different from other victims of racism (except perhaps that they receive less support), even if you haven't experienced it and don't believe it's possible.
It's generally true though, and that's the important point you're not conceding.
If you're a Uyghur Muslim in China, racism against you is going to be far more harmful than the reverse -- in the typical case. That's just fact and stems from the demographic numbers differences.
Ditto with White people in the West but perhaps less stark since Whites tend to be a smaller majority.
I agree, but that isn't what mathieuh wrote. I'd say racism against white people is less common and generally less impactful, but it isn't impossible or inevitably different.
> since Whites tend to be a smaller majority
You're underestimating the diversity of the United States. There are many places in the US where white non-Hispanic Christians are a minority. In fact, white non-Hispanic (but including Jewish and Muslim) people are only 60% of the population of the US.
Yeah the harm is going to vary by location and situation within the US. But while the issue is partly demographics, it also goes beyond that. It's also about the social constructs operating in a culture. A White minority in Singapore doesn't face much racism and the racism they do face isn't damaging because they have a wealthy, powerful community or embassy to fall back on. But if you're a Bangladeshi worker with no rights the situation is totally different almost 100% of the time with no exceptions.
This is what people are trying to point out when they talk about Whiteness. They're talking about the construct that it's good and default to be White (or Han if you live in China or Japanese if you live in Japan) and this construct can even hold true in places with a White minority (e.g., how White people get treated in Singapore, or colorism culture in non-White countries).
That having being said, White people as individuals are empirically the least racist people. That's just empirically true according to survey data. But this is largely besides the point that was being made above.