[DiggyJohnson]

> this ain't the place to ask

Am I double-whooshing here?

How is a Hacker News comment thread not the right place to respectfully ask questions in response to interesting comments. I know I'm not entitled to an answer, nor do I intend to start a flame war. Sheesh

[lmm]

There's nothing respectful about asking something that someone has very blatantly made a deliberate decision to leave out of their post, for completely understandable reasons.

[DiggyJohnson]

On the contrary, I don’t think there’s anything respectful about assuming that the OP doesn’t have the agency to decide for themselves whether they want to respond to my question or not.

Additionally, I don’t have a lot of respect for anyone with the ego to assume they know what information was withheld “deliberate”ly or not in a discussion like this. How do you know that?! How do you not see that the OP can make this decision for themselves?!

[chaps]

Man, you're pushy. Yes, it was deliberate to exclude that information, and yes they were correct in their assumption.

[lmm]

> On the contrary, I don’t think there’s anything respectful about assuming that the OP doesn’t have the agency to decide for themselves whether they want to respond to my question or not.

If being respectful means anything it means reading their post closely and trying to understand what they were trying to convey. You can't talk about denying someone agency if you won't pay attention to what they're telling you.

> How do you know that?! How do you not see that the OP can make this decision for themselves?!

They did make that decision for themselves! It was clear from their post!

[aliqot]

It is personal information that risks identifying them more than they already had at the time of posting. It took about two seconds to put everything together. I don't have a dog in this fight politically one way or the other, people don't need to identify themselves IRL here.

[DiggyJohnson]

Who are you to decide what others are comfortable sharing on here. It is quite literally as simple as the person I replied to choosing not reply to my comment. Why is this issue a concern to you?

> I don't have a dog in this fight politically one way or the other

Neither do I.

> people don't need to identify themselves IRL here

I don't think they do either. Why are you assuming I "needed" this information?

[chaps]

Can you not? They're right.

[DiggyJohnson]

Can I not what?

Why won’t either of you respond to my core argument: GGP does not need to respond to my comment if they’re not comfortable.

Me asking the question is not me demanding a response.