| > If you can be restored from simply doing a different task, then its not real burnout. > the only real solution is to disconnect So I was trying to deal with my dad's tragical slide into depression by convincing him that the monsters he's fighting aren't "real". And he asked me a question bluntly one day (in my own native tongue, where it sounded heavier). "What is real to you? Is what you experience real and what I experience not real?" The problem with defining this sort of reality from a personal view point is that someone's biggest problem in their life so far might be the 100% on their scale. It sure was in my case, my burn out was showing up in my weight (was 54kg at 6'2), while my dad ended up ending his life over work stress. And I still think my situation was worse than his, but just that I was still bouncy when I hit rock bottom. So what someone shares as a real problem and a solution might work for them and a million others (because that's a 1 in an eight million shot), which makes it totally real for them. Also If something works for you, sharing it doubles its effectiveness - socially and personally. |