[rcme]

My point that this "scar tissue" only formed because he had no desire to prolong the relationship with the contractor. Imagine a good friend was doing the work instead of a random contractor. Do you think he'd greet his friend every morning by going over every single thing that was done imperfectly the day prior?

[majormajor]

That sort of behavior happens often in marriages. The "accounting of flaws" there isn't the first sort of "scar tissue", it's something that happens after a bunch has built up. It then layers up and makes it progressively harder and harder to repair the relationship.