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by O__________O 1229 days ago
Thing with OkCupid is people refuse to actually practice the science of relationships. For example, they repeatedly were able to show blind dates produce better results, but the user base refused to participate in blind dates. At the point you’re cherry picking and reading dating science as entertainment or to back one off patterns that meet your desired outcome, that’s opposite of what the authors intended.
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>the user base refused to participate in blind dates

And I can see why. Higher chances of a good result, but also higher chances of getting a fat woman or something like that.

It's a date, not a lifetime commitment. And who knows, maybe the fat woman is worth knowing?
Well say you're into fitness, you'd probably wanna date someone a bit more active. But I agree that the plus size woman could have a great personality.
If it's only a date, you want someone attractive to have sex with. I don't see the difference.
I feel like you're confusing "date" with "hookup."
Maybe I'm not explaining myself well.

If you are having a date looking to have a long-time relationship, you want someone attractive. And if you are having a date looking to hook up, you want someone attractive. So it makes no difference at all.

Unless you are looking for a friend. But then "date" is not the word that I would use.

I suspect in this case the level of attractiveness play a role. You might get a 10 (for your taste) with horrible personality and a 6 with incredible personality, you might decide to compromise.

Or even more, you might change your taste for attractiveness over time.

Then, I know nothing about dates, been for 14 years with my wife and I met her when I was 20, so take everything with a lot of salt.

Some features that are attractive also can't be represented in photos (movement behavior).

You say "you" when you mean "I".
Generally the attractiveness of an individual fades over time, especially after the honeymoon phase of a relationship. This is especially true over long durations when comparing younger alternative mates on purely a physical basis.
Building a successful relationship is way more about friendship than sex.