[Zvez]

I knew a _very_ talented female software developer. And she was radically against any benefits based on her being female. For example she actively tried to avoid female discounts some conferences offered.

It seems that people who drive DEI don't have real connection with people they are trying to 'protect'.

[ModernMech]

You cannot generalize an anecdote about a single person you know to draw conclusions about “people who drive DEI”. By your own admission this person had a radical position. How do you know other women appreciate these benefits?