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by capableweb 1233 days ago
Not only is this a overtly negative view of life itself, it's probably incorrect as well, but depending on what kind of people you interact with, you'll get a biased view of it as a whole. "99%" is wrong, that much I can tell you though, probably closer to 50% than 100%.

I'm biased the other way, most relationships me and my wife see in our friends are closer to the model parent described, but I realize we actively seek out friends who seem to have more healthy relations than people who don't.
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gardenhedge 1233 days ago
How is it a "overtly negative view of life itself"? That's a ridiculous statement.

Of course 99% is not completely accurate but it's in the correct direction which is good enough for the statement.

I am observing the world at a whole. You're observing your immediate self-selected friendships and relationships.

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capableweb 1233 days ago
> How is it a "overtly negative view of life itself"? That's a ridiculous statement.

Because you're saying most if not every relationship is like that. Obviously it's not.

> but it's in the correct direction

How can you possible know this? Unless I missed some reference to you actively doing research in the area, I'm not sure how you possibly can feel certain enough to even guess "it's in the correct direction".

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ad404b8a372f2b9 1233 days ago
By this standard, you can know nothing and discuss nothing without a PhD in the subject matter.

I'm very confident saying most people can't divorce their spouse in a heartbeat no matter the reason, it is entirely detached from anything I've ever observed about relationships, marriages and divorces, over everyone I've ever known in my entire life.

Most people I know couldn't even be sure whether they'd be happier outside of marriage, many people I've known have stayed together even though they were both miserable, many people I know have had a divorce, when either or both wanted it and were miserable throughout the proceedings. That's not even going into breakups in non-married couples which follow different dynamics but aren't generally easy either.

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