[scajanus]

To add on to the last two points:

4) regular exercise and improving yourself also gives you a sense of achievement and something to be proud of if you set and achieve your goals. In addition to the physical changes, these will make you more attractive.

5) You can learn about sex (what you enjoy, what your preferred partners might enjoy) on your own. The better you know yourself and the better informed you are, the easier it is to communicate and find common ground with partners as well. I've been reading Dan Savage since my twenties, and recently listening to him in a podcast made me realize how much of a positive effect his approach to sex and relationships has had on me.

[_yb2s]

I’ll second those points as well! I think sometimes people try to learn about sex from reading, etc. but most people just need to get out of their head and into their body, feeling rather than thinking.