[haswell]

And it’s just one of many ways people can come to realize this over time.

I’ve been fortunate enough to avoid the experience of layoffs, but learned the same lesson by pouring too much of myself into a role and burning out.

Until you’ve directly experienced the reasons work isn’t a family, etc. it can be hard to avoid falling into the trap of thinking that it is.

I would also say that most takes on this are a bit too binary, and some of my longest lasting and strongest friendships came from past jobs. I think the key to use work as an opportunity to establish those relationships instead of a ready-made support system, and not extending the personal aspect of those relationships into workplace behavior (e.g. doing more work because it’s “family”).

[fsociety]

Burning yourself out sucks, but is not an equivalent experience to being laid off. Not sure how you came to this conclusion.

[haswell]

I'm not claiming it's an equivalent experience.

I'm saying that burnout was my path to thinking differently about my relationship with work.

Burnout is a whole other beast, and recovery from it a whole other topic.