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by 1attice 1242 days ago
Dude I'm literally gay. Do you think your kids need to be "protected" from knowing I exist?

Is knowing stories featuring gay people a form of sexualization?

This is the thinking that rubberized playgrounds. Your precious children are in the world. Deal with it.

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EDIT: @dang has established that I'm 'posting too fast' every 37 minutes. Dang, we see you.

Here's my reply: Because some of those children are like me and would benefit, as as I would have, from access to actual, true information, so they don't kill themselves, like I almost did.

You think you're saving your kids. You're traumatizing them.

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Do you think kids honestly care in the least about anyone's sexual preferences or orientations? They haven't even started to approach the timeframe for going through that kind of biological development. Some things should just be kept private by default and reserved for whenever more nuanced discussion becomes possible, with proper content warnings being given beforehand. Let's not sexualize people without meaningful consent.
GP asked two very simple yes/no questions. I think you should answer them before he answers yours.
GP's questions are contingent on the definition of "gay", which most people would see as inherently sexual. After all, there's many people who routinely have close-knit, usually pair-bonded affectionate relationships with unrelated people of the same sex. Such as (to take the clearest examples available to us) the compadres and comadres of present-day Latin America and the Mediterranean or, historically, the 'blood brothers' of ancient tribal cultures in Eurasia and elsewhere. But these relationships do not usually involve a sexual component, and thus are not considered "gay". In other respects though, they're essentially indistinguishable from affectionate relationships between people not of the same sex. It's a mistake to think that "gay" relates to anything other than the sexual.

Would I object to an elementary school book featuring two compadres or comadres who deeply care for each other and teach the value of enduring friendship and affection? Of course not. But that's a far cry from outright depiction of sexual practices.

What else is going on in your life that makes influencing other people's children so important to you?
I would love to learn about you.

What was your home life like as a child? Did you experience a loving household? What is your relationship with your parents like?

When did you realize you were attracted to men instead of women?

What was your first sexual experience? What age, with whom? Was it consensual? Any porn?

I'm sure I will have more questions but since you are willing to educate about you, I am willing to learn.