[leidenfrost]

I know a guy who tried to do that, but his desperation traveled alongside him.

Here in Buenos Aires if there's something valued as much as looks, is spontaneity. So much, that we have the same words for "going on a date" and "hanging out". Because "a date" sounds like you are looking forwards to it and that's a turn off. You have to read the vibe to see if it's really a date or not.

So, as soon as he got some attention, he scared them away.

[zozbot234]

Very good point, this whole notion of "asking X out on a date" is an anti-pattern if you're genuinely trying to get to know each other socially. If you want to "date" in a formal sense, do it after the interest has been clearly reciprocated not before. Anything else really is quite creepy, and it's no surprise that people outside the U.S. will mostly reject it outright.

[soupxix]

maybe in this or that country. in many countries, including the US, "asking X out on a date" is a perfectly normal pattern to genuinely getting to know someone socially and isn't considered "creepy" at all. in general, more people should be more forgiving, especially of foreigners, who try to get to know people socially, especially when it comes down to usage of a single word.

[autoexec]

> So much, that we have the same words for "going on a date" and "hanging out".

Sounds like something that would cause a lot of misunderstandings. How often is that a plot device in sitcoms?

[leidenfrost]

A good and a bad:

Without calling it a date, you are expected to read the vibe. And yes, you can misread it. But, without making it clear, it's not so bad if you misread, because that's where you get the first "no".

I personally think that if one part is into the other, but not vice-versa, not only the relationships won't happen, but also that friendship likely won't happen either. Like relationships, friendships need to have both parties actually wanting it.

[bradlys]

Argentina also just has a lot of white people…