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by scifibestfi 1236 days ago
Even a simple compliment is rare. We could start there.

Does the following meme resonate?

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EcNQvJwXgAEqCLI.jpg
1 comments
Mezzie 1236 days ago
I mean to be fair a lot of this is because men don't compliment each other.

I'm a lesbian and I've been out for 22 years and I still have to be careful giving men compliments because they think 'I like your shirt' means 'I want to suck your dick'.

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mikhael28 1236 days ago
Kind of a facetious question, but does adding an emphasized 'bro' at the end of the sentence change the meaning and their response?

Like, if you said 'I like your shirt bro', and you put just a little bit of tude to the bro - would that decrease the risk of unintended signals?

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Mezzie 1236 days ago
Not really, the 'Girl Next Door' and 'Gamer Girl' have been sexualized so I'm just slotted into that category. Most of it is a function of what you look like and unfortunately for me my appearance just screams feminine and I tick a lot of physical boxes that are attractive to men.

My understanding is once you're like...55 or 60 you can start complimenting men under 40. Then men put you into 'nice grandma' instead of 'she wants to nail me'.

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