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by GrigoriyMikh 1234 days ago
The international dating absolutely ruins dating for local guys. Look into Eastern Europe or even better, Thailand.

Also, is it really long term solution to loneliness? If only motivation for marriage was to get the attractive citezenship, what will hold the marriage after it's done? Anecdotally, internet is full of stories of "mail-brides", who divorce the men and take a sweet part of his assets with it.
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giantg2 1234 days ago
There are prenups, which I believe would be wise for any couple to create (together), and especially important in this type of arrangement.

As I said, this isn't through a mail order service. This is via friends of friends. The marriage would not just be for citizenship. Just like the arranged marriages I mentioned, there would be an element of matchmaking via the intermediary (the mutual friend in this case, or the two families in a traditional arrangement) that has a true belief that the two people would get along well together and share similar values. Then you would have visits and such to see how you liked the other person.

But yes, I see how that can create problems in specific locales. Unfortunately, I'm not sure how the problem can be solved universally.

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prirun 1234 days ago
> There are prenups, which I believe would be wise for any couple to create (together), and especially important in this type of arrangement.

Judges can override prenups. I just did a little Google research, and just under 50% of prenups are invalidated during divorce.

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giantg2 1234 days ago
They can't override prenups. They can invalidate prenups, or portions of the prenup for specific reasons. I couldn't find the stats that you mentioned. I would guess that number included specific provisions that were invalidates, such as custody arrangements, which are outside the scope of a prenup.
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Dracophoenix 1234 days ago
Look up "Second Look Doctrine"
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giantg2 1233 days ago
Yeah, again, they can invalidate portions of the prenup for specific reasons. In the case of second look, that reason would be if the terms are considered unreasonable at the time of divorce. So it is fairly open ended due to "reasonable" being subjective based on the judge (or master) that you get. But the use of this doctrine is supposed to be pretty limited and should only be applied if the terms were egregiously lopsided or a significant life event occurred (disabled spouse).
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