I've got a 90m^2 flat next to the beach, a car, a girlfriend who has no income since November, a cute dog :-) and money in the bank. All paid with my less than 40k€/year income. Of course this is not The Valley, this is Barcelona.
I didn't know that living there was so expensive, I'm sorry for you :-(
80k will get you 5 roommates and bedroom with a curtain.
In San Francisco 250k to 300k/y is high paid. 100k-150k is making it, 80k would be in the low paid arena.