[bradknowles]

I still haven't really figured out how to read people. If some aspect of their behaviour is really obvious, then I might pick up on it. If not, well ... not.

I would recommend talking to someone who is a specialist in the field. Autism doesn't manifest in the same way for everyone. That's why it's called a "spectrum" and why they used to have multiple conditions named for what is now considered the broader spectrum.

I've never been formally diagnosed, but I've taken the "Adult Autism" tests, and I score pretty high. But I've also had over fifty years to learn coping mechanisms.

It sounds like you're already doing surprisingly well, but a specialist in the field may be able to help you figure out some additional techniques you can try that may help you do even better.