[comprev]

Getting divorced goes against the promise of being there "through better or worse, in sickness and in health".

That's a brutal suggestion even if your intentions were good!

[cjbprime]

Why is it brutal? The legal status is just a document; the commitment to mutual care still seems present and honored. Why would it be honoring that commitment to leave one spouse in extreme medical debt, and the other spouse with the guilt of that?

(If you read "may want to divorce to avoid their medical bills" as "you should break up with them", I don't think you interpreted the suggestion correctly.)

[toomuchtodo]

The divorce is to firewall creditors chasing OP for post death medical debt. It’s not for lack of love, but because America.

OP should talk to an attorney familiar with creditor and estate law.

[dumy55]

Thanks,I will consult a lawyer

[toomuchtodo]

Hope it helps. I am terribly sorry for your situation.