[BGizzle]

Between stimulus and response, we have a choice in how we react. If you think the problem is out there, stop yourself. If we use our own conscience, self-awareness, imagination and free will we can choose a response every time that we won't regret. It's nice to be nice and it's cool to be cool. No one wants problems and we all have them. But in every problem exists an opportunity - to solve that problem. The only way to fail is to not try. Otherwise you just die trying. And baby steps are still steps - it's about consistency, not intensity. We are constantly generating and reflecting energy and positivity prevails. You can choose to be irrevocably damaged and impaired by your ex-boss's negativity, but you can also use your own self-awareness, conscience and free will to choose how you react. Your boss's words or actions don't decide you. You can change your state if you choose to.

[ilc]

No, not every problem is solvable. If my boss asks me if 1+1=3, I will never tell him it does. There are managers who want to hear 1+1=3. And won't accept anything less.

There are managers who actively look to destroy people. It happens, for various reasons, including favoritism, nepotism or whatever. It isn't mine to know why. It is mine to know that it happens. And I've seen it plenty.

When negativity is in charge.... negativity wins. When zero and negative sum is the only game to be played... those of us who play a positive game suffer.

I'm glad you've never seen these dynamics, and been able to dodge them. But trust me. I've seen it, and I've seen it destroy great teams.

The way he can change his state is exactly how he did: Leave. Sometimes it really is that bad. May it never get there for you.