[joshuanomed]

This isn’t the advice you’re looking for, but after decades of being lectured about how I didn’t understand where half of my family was “coming from” in their continuously toxic, belittling criticisms of me, my spouse, our family, where we live, what we do, why we don’t live in “Real America”, etc. I gave up. No matter what I did to accommodate these people it was never enough, it would never be enough.

It was abuse without being physically abusive.

So I cut them out and off entirely. It absolutely sucks. I know many have health and financial problems that I could probably help them through. But not at the cost of my own mental health and well being. It took time to accept it and feel better.