[stonekyx]

> the lack of understanding you by other people is caused by the lack of skills to explain yourself to others

This is the point where the argument went off, I believe. People only listen to what they want to listen, and generally they care less, or won’t bother to care at all, if the topic is not somehow related with themselves.

So no, the lack of understanding you by other people is usually not caused by the lack of skills to explain yourself, but more often caused by human nature.

[ehnto]

Indeed, even my most empathetic, patient friends will struggle to care about a topic entirely unrelated to them for long. You do have to make an effort to find people who can relate to you in some dimension. That's why hobbies are a common suggesting for making friends, you immediately have common ground.

[stasbar]

Thank you for your comment. My goal was to be as succinct as possible and cover most of the cases of “casual” feeling of loneliness.

Although I still believe that self-understanding and communication are fundaments, other people are also important factor in this equation.

I wrote complementary points in this comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34497083