[superdeeda]

> Same thing regarding a growing number of women too but men don't have the same support structure as women do.

I’m a woman and I honestly have no idea what you’re talking about here.

Regardless, I’ve struggled with intense social anxiety and loneliness since about 13.

The only long-term ”solutions” I’ve found that help have been: having a partner, good relationships with my family and joining a club (in my case, a football club) that has recurring sessions weekly.

Obviously, the latter is something that’s more easy to “engineer” than the first two.

So my only advice is to find or start a club or interest group that regularly meets. I’ve found that groups on Meetup often don’t have the same group if people attending. So rather search for local sports groups or community groups where you’ll meet some of the same people week after week and be able to build relationships with them over time.

[dumbaccount123]

I understand, apologies for offending. Its not as black and white as I made it out in the OP.

The kind of loneliness I'm referring to is were you're completely alone and you don't have a partner, when you can go two months sitting indoors and have 0 texts on your phone. Obviously this is a complex subject so theres nothing I can really expand on without stating bias.

[ninethirty]

Twenty years ago we were talking about the book "Bowling Alone". This is more of the same, there's a decline in civic institutions and civic engagement. Work is totally anodyne if you even go into the office. Low status men are left-behind in the dating market because women select high status men.

Do some group fitness class, they usually have some kind of social event once and a while, so you can at least get to casually know a few people.

[superdeeda]

Why are you sitting indoors?

[the_only_law]

Because pointlessly sitting around on my couch is nicer than pointlessly sitting around in some loud venue or outside with god awful weather.

I blame Covid personally. Before Covid there was stuff going on that could motivate me to go do stuff, but not so much the last years or two. Even going out to bars feels tedious now.

[dumbaccount123]

Its not me and I'm not sitting in doors but there are people who are so alone that no one would notice their absence. Actually quite a large problem in certain parts of Asia.