[flippinburgers]

I'm sorry to hear about such a negative experience. In terms of you having kids, if you were to find a partner that you love and can imagine yourself being with for life, kids are actually incredibly wonderful. Given your experience, you could give them something your parents never were able to.

I wish society didn't seem to be so quick to judge having kids as a negative thing.

[blep_]

I have a partner like that, and this is a thing we discussed very early and very much agree on. Neither of us would enjoy it, and both of us would be terrible parents, because it is very possible to severely screw something up without it being malicious. It would be bad for everyone involved.

I wish society didn't seem to be so quick to assume everyone would be happier with children. Some people legitimately are, but it is not a guarantee.