[ishjoh]

I have 3 and I remember the process you're going through.

> thinking of all the vacations and iPhones I would have to buy

You don't have to buy this stuff. I grew up lower middle class, the only vacation we took until I was 15 was driving 8h to stay with my grandma. I never had a gameboy or lots of other things. My childhood was still great. Looking back maybe I could have had those things if my brother didn't exist, but I'm much happier that my brother exists because 10/10 I had way more fun with him than having a gameboy or exotic vacations, even though we didn't always get along.

College education is expensive, but it's possible to not spend a fortune using community college and transferring. Hopefully there will be even more low cost options in the future.

If you can have a roof over their head, feed them, have a stable home life and bring a positive attitude to every day then the rest doesn't matter.

[llampx]

Thanks for the chat. I have seen enough families where the siblings don't get along, although I do get along with mine and have many fond memories together.

I have to balance the potential for good memories as a bigger family with wanting to have the best for the kid(s) we do have.