[sherilm]

First off, early 30s is young! Some thoughts:

1. Don't take negative thoughts as an indicator of anything. They just are. Using either their presence or absence as some sort of signal is a waste of time.

2. Everyone's winging it to some level. We just don't see it. Meanwhile we are intimate with our own challenges. So cut yourself some slack.

3. Inertia's a bitch. Only cure is action, any action in fact, even when you are not sure whether it's the "right" move or not.

Wrote more on doubt here: https://www.leadingsapiens.com/dont-overcome-self-doubt/