[Apreche]

The only red flag here is you. If your son is in college, he is likely to be at least 18 and therefore an adult in most countries. He is responsible for his own decisions, and is also the one to suffer the consequences.

If he was studying accounting would you worry if he wasn't having fun doing people's taxes at night? If he was studying chemistry would you worry if he didn't have a mad scientists lab going on?

Let your son live his own life.

[thinking4real]

“The only red flag here is you. If your son is in college, he is likely to be at least 18 and therefore an adult in most countries.”

Lol what?

Literally most people I know not from the us are either living with or strongly financially supported by their families. Often are buying their first home before their 30s

Americans were sold out and now they think 7 years before the brain fully developed a person should have picked themselves up by their bootstraps…

[rizzaxc]

this line of thinking is insane. I completely understand wanting to be independent, but hostility toward elder's care is just bizarre. a child doesn't just evolve to be a responsible adult on their 18th birthday like a pokemon, especially now that distractions are so easy to access. how many 'adults' have you seen make bad decisions (often ignoring their parents' advice) and later come crawling back to mom's basement? personally, I've seen too many, and the parents aren't gonna shut the door to their face

[shanebellone]

This comment strikes me as naive.

If a child is financially dependent on their parents, they are not capable of living independently. A parent who isn't providing support, has no right to dictate or interfere.

Personally, independence defines adulthood.

[lordkrandel]

That's why financially dependent persons don't vote or drive. Come to Italy, you'll find people aged 35 who live with their parents and are financially dependent even with a Ph.D. and an academic researcher career. You're so biased.

[shanebellone]

I'm aware of both instances. I'd argue that the European approach is better. However, if someone is paying your bills, they get to set the rules for continued financial support.

Disillusionment is the result of entitlement.

[lordkrandel]

You're missing the main point: the rules for continued financial support don't dictate how adult a person is: how conscentious he can be, the hard decisions he can make, how he manages responsabilities with the people he cares about. Maybe the adult lives with the parents because it's the most adult thing to do and will will leave if these conditions are no longer met. And yet, you're judging those persons as "non-adult" just because of a prejudice. I repeat myself: so much bias.

[shanebellone]

"Personally, independence defines adulthood."

The word personally starts that sentence to indicate opinion. All opinion is biased. Yours is too.

[lordkrandel]

Yeah, it's a discussion between people with opinions. Let's move on and define language now? Or shall I ask ChatGPT? And that's all, because this is starting to become boring, and I don't like to feed trolls.