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by defnotahuman 1261 days ago
This is insanely bad advice, IMO.

Anger is very hard to control, can easily backfire into self-loathing and cause you to strain existing relationships, which can also further fuel internal anger at oneself. If you get mad about what happened to you and start lashing out at others, you risk isolating yourself and deepening your depression.

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I'm studying emotional philosophy and I think it's great advice. Executive function disorders stem from an inability to healthily feel and use anger. If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult.

Fear and anger are like look and leap. People who can't feel anger can only look and never leap.

> If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult.

Why is this the case?

Anger's the 'do something' emotion. We associate it with the big 'do something' events like flipping over a table, but it also governs everything you do all day long.
Nearly every statement in this entire thread needs to have a 'maybe' inserted somewhere in it.
Second this - it can also cause a split personality, the usual inner monologue becomes abusive as you blame yourself, so you get angry at it, which feeds the condition.
Too much anger is bad. Suppressing justified anger might be unhealthy though. So long as it's moderated, anger can be an appropriate response to some things.
anger/rage is different than violence. You can channel and physicalize anger healthily, but you also have to take it slow when learning how.