[snopemip352]

I honestly feel like your career in the US is over, the system is too rigged against you. According to them, you are a "sex offender" AND you owe a lot of money to a woman for a long time with nothing in return. Your best bet is to go to another country and start from scratch where you will not have any "sex offender" hindrances and you will not owe money to anyone. Trying to get child support from someone in another country literally never happens, its impossible. You could go to europe, Portugal has very high quality of life and low cost of living. Or you could go to another country like panama, Thailand, malaysia, georgia, ect. There are plenty of companies hiring there that would appreciate your skills. In terms of your name being googled, obviously you have to either legally change your name or go with a pen name, like your middle name, and a different last name. In terms of your children, you have to accept that your wife did this to them, and whatever lower quality of life they experience is your wife's fault, not yours. They wouldn't be experiencing this if your wife didn't do this. Your best bet is to leave the country and save up as much money as you can that you can spend on them when they turn 18. Until then, try to keep in contact with them digitally, teach them how to secretly keep in touch with you.

[uwotm6]

> According to them, you are a "sex offender"

I don't know why you're putting this in quotes as if it's not true, I just looked up the public records and here he is in the sex offender database:

    Crime Information

    Sexual Predator
    VICTIM WAS 15 YEARS OF AGE
    OFFENDER WAS 26 AT THE TIME OF THE OFFENSE

    Crimes:
    SEXUAL EXPLOITATION/EXPOSE ORGANS
    SEXUAL EXPLOITATION/EXPOSE ORGANS/2ND

So there you go.

> In terms of your children, you have to accept that your wife did this to them, and whatever lower quality of life they experience is your wife's fault, not yours. They wouldn't be experiencing this if your wife didn't do this.

Excuse me, what? Why on earth are you blaming the wife for something this guy did and is wholly responsible for?

[ad404b8a372f2b9]

No one is disputing whether or not he is in a database, the point is there is a difference between being labelled something by the government and being something. The entire point of rehabilitation is the acknowledgment that people can change and that they do not have to be defined by their crime for the rest of their lives.

[thealchemistdev]

> Why on earth are you blaming the wife for something this guy did and is wholly responsible for?

Blaming the wife is a bit much, but the divorce was an optional consequence. It's a lengthy, difficult, and expensive process. If they had put the kids' development first, they would have figured out a way to keep them in a two parent household.

Now that their father is not easily accessible, guess who has to overcome the emotional baggage while learning life lessons without guidance.

We have enough data to know the differences between adults who had their father and those who didn't. The optional divorce essentially slashed their potential in half.

[perfecthjrjth]

That's why many people against whom the system is too rigged, have moved to other countries, start a business there just to make a decent living (not to become wealthy).

[jstarfish]

> Your best bet is to go to another country and start from scratch where you will not have any "sex offender" hindrances

Is he just not going to apply for a visa?

[jonnycomputer]

Not paying child support is not an option. Come on.

[serf]

> Not paying child support is not an option. Come on.

that must be why it's such a wildly unpopular thing to do.

(30% of families entitled to paternal child support do not receive it as they should.)