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by valachio 1266 days ago
Thing is, in my experience I have been able to learn to tolerate someone after spending enough time with them.

It's possible I might learn to tolerate this potential cofounder as well, if I spend more time with him.

It's certainly not my first choice but he and I have nearly identical interests in terms of the startup we want to build, as well as perfectly complementing skillsets.
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geocrasher 1266 days ago
You make a good point. But that's something I'd iron out before co-founding together. Co-founding is like getting married. Essentially you're saying "yeah, she looks like an alien dissected a train wreck and put it back together inside out, but she's really smart."

Some people are okay with that. Some aren't. Are you?

And what good are experiences and interests if your visions aren't in line with each other, or you end up just never liking the guy? I mean, if you can find things to like and get along- that's great! But the fact that you're asking this question to begin with is troubling in itself. You shouldn't have to ask, IMHO. You should just know. And, I suspect you already do.

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valachio 1266 days ago
I agree that if I end up not liking him (as a person) at all, then it won't work out.

I was planning on setting up like a 3-month part-time working relationship where we can work together on some side project to get to know each other better.

A 3-month work commitment is not much, plus if I go into it and 1-month later I decide things dont work out, I can just leave.

But I'm wondering if it's worth investing time for this 3-month work arrangement at all

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geocrasher 1266 days ago
Honestly from what you're saying, I'd pass. Time is too precious. I mean, if you think you might have a Jamie and Adam type of relationship (mythbusters) where you don't always see eye to eye but you always do amazing work together, that's great. But if you don't see that now, and have that professional respect already, then I dunno.

Have you discussed this with him? And if not, why not? You'll be tackling much bigger issues together in the future, so tackle this one. What does he think? It might be as simple as saying "You know, we have a lot in common and I think we could work together, but our personalities just don't seem to click. I'm concerned about working together long term. What do you think?"

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