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by ajuc 1264 days ago
I enjoyed high school (because I wasn't bullied, had friends and was doing well).

I was bullied in primary school and hated it. I still did well grades-wise.

If you weren't bullied seriously you probably can't understand how big of a deal it is for small kids. Like psychological-issues-30-years-later serious.

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> If you weren't bullied seriously you probably can't understand how big of a deal it is for small kids. Like psychological-issues-30-years-later serious.

Assuming the depiction of serious bullying in TV series is more or less acurate wrt seriousness, I was barely mildly bullied. That still has had implications on my life, still to this day, more than 30 years later.

Same here (30 years later). It has absolutely impacted my social development and the way I interpret how others interacts with me. I have not been in therapy, but I think I also have some type of PTSD
Agree. I was bullied horrifically through the 10th year of public school. I even attempted to fight back against the bullies and was punished for that by the school. The effects linger to this day 20+ years later.
I understand how serious it can be. I think in a healthy environment you would more often be able to escape and avoid interactions with bullies. It is unnatural to the extreme to be pushed and forced into randomly chosen social groups and forced to interact according to an extremely fixed schedule, in fixed locations, etc.

It leads to damaging abusive interactions with others who take advantage of that situation. Bullies know that you can't get away. I had a situation where I was literally forced to sit next to someone I hated for months - I can't think of anywhere that could happen except prison and school