[_mme]

I‘m 42. Here‘s my advice to someone half my age. Have conflicts. Put your heart into it. If you loose, you receive some truth. If you win you give some truth. The outcome does not matter if it means you grow.

Go eat or drink together as if nothing happened.

[twayt]

The prerequisite for this is a healthy foundation of self belief. Young adults out there are getting hammered by messages that imply that they are fundamentally flawed and will never stack up.

It’s a fragile place to be

[mancerayder]

The messages need to be questioned. Questioning authority, your peers and the society as a whole is an important step to develop a sense of self. It means you might be perceived as a rebel or immature at times. Sometimes you can't give a shit what other people think about you: I do not see that message being reinforced. I see vicious conformity among American youth.

[mLuby]

> Sometimes you can't give a shit what other people think about you

That worked when gossip didn't travel farther than the next town.

Just when young people are given more viable ways to live than ever to pick from, they're given fewer chances than ever to start over if they choose unwisely. Are many narrow choices better than a few broad ones?

[_mme]

Any message you receive you should evaluate in the context of your physical life. It’s your life!

[kmlx]

> loose

since a few years ago i’ve noticed a trend where people write

“loose” (not firmly or tightly fixed in place; detached or able to be detached. "a loose tooth")

instead of

“lose” (be deprived of or cease to have or retain (something). "I've lost my appetite")

does anyone know what’s going on?

[mkl]

And "it's" instead of "its", "you're" and "they're" instead of "your" and "their", "weary" instead of "wary". Lots more people seem to be making these same mistakes.

[hxugufjfjf]

"try and think" "would of" "could of" - english native speakers 2022

[mkl]

Well, "try and" has been valid English for centuries [1], and "would of" and "could of" are not recent problems.

[1] https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/were-going-to-...

[kmlx]

i understand making these mistakes, but it’s been getting worse in the past few years.

[sixstringtheory]

I use swipe typing on my smartphone and it makes these and other close but wrong insertions all the time.

[goblinux]

i think it’s because choose and chose are pronounced different from loose and lose- but autocorrect has no idea the difference or context of use and so people throw whatever out there

[skocznymroczny]

For me as a non-native English speaker it might be a case of English having confusing pronunciations. Pronunciation of loose and lose is very similar if not the same (I probably couldn't tell them apart). One might expect lose to be pronounced similarly to words like hose, rose or pose.

[kmlx]

i’m also not a native english speaker, but having to pass english certification exams made me a lot more of pronunciation.

loose is /luːs/

lose is /luːz/

notice the “s” and “z”. i’m sure this doesn’t help in languages where “s” and “z” are very close together phonetically.

[alar44]

The ubiquity of spellcheck and autocorrect. I can't spell for shit anymore.

[sethammons]

Spellcheck without autocorrect taught me to spell. I would retry the word with a squiggly red line under it til it was good. Autocorrect doesn't allow this self-remediation and learning. Disable it :)

[_mme]

soy un perdedor

[avx56]

swipe-to-type?