[epolanski]

What if that approach of over protecting brings up a future lazy, spoiled, weak willed adult that will conduct miserable lives because up to 36 months all their brain saw is that crying always got them attentions and everything they wanted?

You don't know whether your approach is the best one, I don't, speak with as many professionals you can.

[agumonkey]

I approach it the other way. I wouldn't succumb to every tantrum. I try to build a solid emotional bridge so that the kid can stay grounded and relaxed as much as possible.

I'd love to speak with interesting professionals. So far I've met none.

[metabagel]

Children under the age of three aren't capable of self-soothing. If they're quiet when you abandon them, it's because they've given up hope.

[epolanski]

You don't know that, you're not inside their brain nor you're a scientist studying the matter.

There is no evidence behind your claim.